What are the Four Horseman?

Something we talk about in couples sessions often is Gottman's Four Horseman. These are behaviors found in research as predictors of divorce. Couples who use these often are more likely to get divorced then ones who use the antidotes.

If you use these in session I'll ask you to stop for a moment. I'll explain which one you're using and what the antidote is and we practice using it.

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